I feel fortunate that I see many of my thoughts being re-posted on facebook, twitter, etc, so I have decided to keep a log of some of these quotes for others (and for me, since I will likely forget):
If you have no muscle, you’re physically weak; if unintelligent, you’re mentally weak; and if insecure, you’re emotionally weak. Grow bigger, faster, and stronger.
In time all is revealed, and scars are healed. That which was unknown becomes clear that which was hidden will appear
If you’re unaccountable, you can count……on not developing trust and respect. Shore up, folks.
When you’re given a filet mignon, and you instead opt for the McRib, you should probably eat with the rats.
We get the love that we think we deserve, or better yet, that we demand. I see so many people fall into traps by making decisions from a position of weakness, rather than from strength. The facts are: a cheater is always a cheater, and a beater is always a beater. Those leopards don’t really change their spots. We all make mistakes, but the learning from mistakes means not making them again. Demand better, and you will command better. But you gotta love yourself, or you’ll never be able to share that caliber of love with another.
A beautiful facade does not guarantee a nice interior.
Most suffering/stress comes from attaching ourselves to thoughts that argue with reality (“He/she shouldn’t be this way,” “it shouldn’t be raining so hard”). That means we are meddling with either God’s or someone else’s business. When you begin to focus on YOUR part of the equation, and learn to love “what is,” then you unchain your padlock to these thoughts of “could’ve and should’ves.” You can’t control your thoughts, but like raindrops, you can choose which truths to hold and which ones to drip away. (My take on Byron Katie’s book “Loving What Is.”)
In one of my favorite books, The Slight Edge, the author basically says that nothing is linear: either you’re on the upslope or downslope. That means whomever you choose to associate with is helping or hurting you. These choices have a compound effect: the little things we do, or don’t do, each day, have a tremendous impact maybe not 6 days from now, but 6 months, and surely 6 years from now. Those day-to-day actions rest entirely at your discretion, so be the captain of your ship daily, so that you get where you want to be.
No interaction is accidental. God puts some people there that better your overall well-being and challenge you to improve, and puts others there to show you what to rise above.
One song can change a moment, one idea can change a world, one step can change a journey, but one prayer can change the impossible
As Valentine’s Day approaches, I know many out there get a little vexed. Relationships are tough these days, but I’ve learned a few things. It boils down to Chemistry, Compatibility, Communication, and Character. There must be mutual respect and that may mean being cut from the same cloth and having similar values and mores. To love and to be loved is great, but to respect and be respected is equally as important.
Real>Fake. Truth>Lies. Communication>Silence. Character>Immorality. Substance>Superficiality. Maturity>Naiveté. Quality>Quantity. Soul>Skin
You can’t turn chicken poop into chicken salad no matter how much mayo you add.
You know what one of our problems is? We’ve lost that sense of childlike wonder. You know- that Disney sparkle, the way it feels when you have your first fish on your line, your first high school kiss, the way lemonade tastes on a summer day. We let the world get in our way, when we should be getting in the way of the world by appreciating the smallest of things. What we all really crave is to feel like a kid again.
After watching that show Catfish, I thought about social media: it’s great for keeping up with others, but the quality of that connection can be trivial, at best (and maybe a fantasy). I enjoy sharing my thoughts and music with everyone- some people are more active and some more passive. But I can treat social media as flippantly as I can seriously. Just because you can say something, doesn’t mean that you should. Instant gratification it may provide, but nothing will ever take the place of a face to face conversation. I prefer to find my love and life without wifi.
Persistence pays off. Never underestimate it. It may be the difference between you winning and losing something.
The life we lead is way too short to leave the important words and feelings that we feel for another unsaid. Though all of us are different in our ability to vocalize the way that we feel about each other, we must all come to realize that at some point every one has an expiration date. Don’t leave your life with a sense of regret. Be sure to tell all of the people who go out of their way to make you feel special and make you feel loved, how appreciative for them you actually are.
“I could write a thousands songs and still not get it right,
Words and melodies that come to me still wont’ change our plight,
You’ve got your armor on, and push and pull away,
And I can’t read your mind, so what am I to say?
I’ve got no weapons out, but your heart is wrapped in steel,
How can I get through, when you’re scared of what you’ll feel?
So let it go, and let it down” (from my song, “Armor”)
Well we didn’t bring the Emmy home tonight, but I was really happy to see a nominee about wounded warriors climbing Mr. Ranier win. At least we both had the same theme, and hey, I’ve been fortunate to sing “Blessed” all over the country, from The Bold & The Beautiful’s Veterans Day episode, to the GOP Convention, to many stops for Mitt Romney, and the music video runs on CMT, CMT Pure, and TCN still, so there’s a lot to celebrate, and to have Television Academy peers nominate me is a win in and of itself. We continue to be “blessed” by this.
Don’t run FROM the problem. Run TO the solution. That’s the finish line and a race you need to win.
Treat each day as a means for progress. Don’t be a boy or a girl: be a gentleman or a lady. Improve the sphere around you, no matter how small that may be, and hit the pillow at night knowing you’ve bettered not just yourself, but someone around you. Perpetually raise the bar.
The past is irrelevant, the future is indeterminate, so the present is your only moment. Take it.
In light of today’s inauguration, Pres. Obama has my support as an elected official. But I feel quite honored and blessed to have been a surrogate for Governor Romney in 2012. This pic was taken on Mitt’s last trip to Atlanta, where I opened/sang for him. I hope I to emulate his character, acumen, honor, and charity in my coming days. His motto of “Clear Eyes, Full Hearts” has stuck with me ever since.
Not long ago, I was attacked (on FB) by editors of a certain women’s magazine (that I’d been in) for my faith. I guess it didn’t fit with their magazine’s slant. This is straight out of the beatitudes though, and I reminded myself today that you can’t blame the darkness for being dark. After all, darkness is merely the absence of light. Therefore, you have only yourself to blame if you aren’t being that light.
Be your own you. There is no other you, and you’ve got but one life to be you. Stop pretending and start being. Get busy livin’ or dyin’.(with attribution to The Shawshank Redemption)
Learning from life’s growing pains. I asked myself: do I want to be famous? Or do I want a legacy? My mom is a teacher- not famous but leaving indelible imprints every day. I could never be a Kardashian, because they serve no societal benefit, but I feel lucky to have had a decade+ of work/success while keeping my private life unbothered. Each day presents an opportunity to become better than you were yesterday: a conscious choice. Time will find you out. I’ll never need to “trend” to change lives.
Respect: so prized, yet so rare. The ones who have it for themselves tend to show it to others. You can take that one to the bank, Jack.
Preparing notes for the release of my 2013 bestseller novel: 50 Shades of Cray
When you run towards things, you have a goal, a purpose, and a reward; when you run away from things, you’re constantly looking backwards and thus have no course.
Time heals all wounds and it also exposes weaknesses. May the 2013 odds be ever in our favor.
I just landed in Cincinnati, and even ordering Chick-fil-A the cashier asked me about the book in my hand- Thomas Paine’s “Common Sense.” I replied- with what happened in your state two days ago- you need to go buy it right now.
Pretty is what you are- Beauty is what you do with it.